After a long wait of 9 months, you get enthusiastic to welcome your little one. Blessings and suggestions start flowing from the day you goto hospital till the day you name your little one. Yet, among all the fury of words flying across, all you need to know is how to connect with your child.
I was always longing to be a Father, and when I became one, I was ready for the happiness, followed by the clouds of words – both bright and dark, conducive, comforting, non-compliant, and all the adjectives that I could possibly use to explain them. And like every other parent, the paranoia sets in – Will I become a good parent?
Parenthood is ingrained in our genes, right as your child knows to latch its lips to the mother’s bosom; its intuitive. However, many of us, surrounded by the fury of words around us, have forgotten to heed to the inner voice, the intuition, and often fall prey to the parenting dilemma of what to do or not.
The first few days, right after your little one is born, matter. These are the formative days wherein you establish a connection with your little one, and this is what lasts for a really long time. We were lucky as parents due to Corona. We were given a suite, and no one was allowed into it, except the doctors and nursing staff. Being only the two of us for the first five days, we were fortunate to strike a connection with our little one.
However, that’s not the case with all. Each child is different, and so are parents. So, we are unaware as to when the connection will be established. But once, its established, it will be a lot easy for you both to nurse, feed, clean, play, and put your child to sleep. Parenting paranoia is the worry that steps in when you have a lot to choose from.
Narrow down on your choices, be averse of advice, and validate it when received. The internet is filled with wrap and craps, so be cautious as to what you follow, and what you observe. Parenting is a learning process, its not like you cook a great dish, and forget about it; its continuous and you need to be on your toes, sometimes, to match to the situation, and help your child grow, with you.
Parenting paranoia will exist – but our choices will define how we manage it.
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